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Should I Stay or Should I Go?: Changing the Ground Rules: Some Suggestions

What do you do when faced with a situation like Trish’s, where your partner loses a career and becomes a mere shadow of him or herself? Or one like Timothy’s, where your life’s mate morphs into someone you don’t know… Continue Reading

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Should I Stay or Should I Go?: Problem Marriages #3–Marriages That Begin in Subterfuge

Susan* had always been agentic, had known from her visit to Cornell that she wanted to and would go there, had known from her initial interview with Price Waterhouse Coopers that she wanted to and would work there–and had known… Continue Reading

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Should I Stay or Should I Go?: Problem Marriages #1–The Over- and Under-Functioner

In my years in practice and as a social being I’ve come across a number of marriages that were, shall we say, to put it tactfully, not functioning optimally. Over time I came to see that such marriages fell, more… Continue Reading

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Should I Stay or Should I Go?: Problem Marriages #4–Using Marriage to Complete the Tasks of Adolescence

Finally I come to the last problem marriage structure [and note that there is an infinite number of ways in which these dynamics are played out–I’m just drawing the very broad outlines]: When a spouse utilizes marriage to complete the… Continue Reading